A testing time

Behaviour in these years varies a lot as your child works out how they fit into the world and how much control they have over what happens. They'll be testing you to see if you can be consistent and will be hoping you'll create a regular routine so their days are predictable, safe and secure. Stories of the terrible twos may appear to be coming true as your child changes mood, makes immediate demands and throws tantrums, especially in the supermarket or other public places. Some parents find this phase actually begins at three instead of two. "No" may seem like your child's favourite word They'll dislike changes to routine and will strongly resist doing anything they don't want to. This challenging behaviour should ease off as their fourth birthday approaches and you'll find you can sort things out by talking and reasoning. During the toddler and preschool years you should also notice a change in your child's reaction when you leave them. In the early toddler years they'll want you close all the time; by two to three they'll happily go off to play knowing you're around; by three to four they'll only need to check back every so often to see you're there.

Time flies

As you start the preparations for school, it may seem that these first years have gone by in the blink of an eye. Spend time going over photos and mementoes of the first four years of your child's life to remind yourself of the many things you've done and learned together - your child may enjoy doing this with you. This information should be used as a guide only. Children develop at different stages, but if you're concerned you should contact your doctor or health professional.